I don't know about anyone else, but I found that when I stopped looking, I found a wonderful guy (I know he wasn't looking either). It seems like that's when it happens for all of my friends who don't have birthmarks as well.
For me at least, I think that's when you relax and don't feel the "I need a relationship" pressure. It allows the person to see you (i.e. fall for you
) for who you are, without all the facades that everyone puts up when they are focused on the 'need to be in a relationship' zone. I decided to be happy with myself and relax - if the right person came along, that was cool, if not, I was happy so who cares. After about a year, the right person came along and added extra layers of happiness, but at my core I'm still happy. I think that's also part of what attracts him to me.
I don't know if that helps or not.