how to tell someone, *new*youth

[Island]

I'm 20/f and have often wondered this. I've only had one serious boyfriend in the past but our relationship never got that far (my birthmark covers my thigh and we never got "hot n heavy" enough for him to see). lol. I'll say to you what everyone else has said...if he really loves you then it wont be a problem. if he freaks out about it when you tell him or show him, then hes not the right person for you. there is someone out there for everyone, and that perfect someone will love you for you.

[pookie12]

I'm going through the same thing.. if you want to know more, read my post.., but i too have avoided relationships, until now.. and i'm in one and want to pursue a sexual relationship, but its so embarrassing... and honestly, i KNOW this guy wouldn't care, because he's absolutely in love with me, but its just the whole idea of it. and i had the same question, how the heck would i bring it up? haha, so theres this thing.... =)

but~ point being, i know EXACTLY how you feel... you should contact me through email or something...!

[clintonbookw]

Seems nice. Thanks!

Originally Posted by lalaland

I've never told someone other than family about it, I'm not sure hwo to say it "theres something i need to show you..i was born with..." ... i'm not sure how to ease into the news haha, any opinion on how to lead into the conversation ?

I don't think he was a specialist?* My mother said she took me to the hospital a lot when i was little as they watched its progress, but they didn't know what it was, it started off as just a red line, like a scratch, then started getting bigger, and plum color.* Now it is a light pink, and the size of about...I don't know...an egg cut in half? haha.

I've heard that it's cancer from one doctor (who was wrong) , that it's just extra skin and can just be sown up from another, and i finally set up an appointment with a plastic surgeon, and he said that its a hemangenoma(sp?).* it is located on the right center of my chest, as a girl, it is uncomfortable, i can;'t wear the nice bikinis my friends wear, and the plastic surgeon says that when they do any kind of surgery on the chest of females...thats the one area the all try to avoid at all costs because it is impossible to make a mark not visible.

Now i really didnt care if there was a line, or something from a scar, but he says it may look worse with a scar, the only difference it would be more flat and not such thin skin. but he says it may stretch, and when i am pregnant, may swell and be even more visible. he said he doesnt suggest doing anything.* so i tried to hold in tears as i left the office as "great im stuck with it" kind of thing.

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