I have actually kept a scrap book of all the emails, photos and thoughts over the last 14 months for Ava to read when she gets older. She is just now noticing the one arm is a little different than the other. I saw her touching the scar and then looked at the other arm and touched it. Then she just went about playing again. I plan on, as she gets older and wants to talk about it, being very honest about it and telling her that is just makes her beautiful and unique. As far as other peoples questions and remarks, as i do now, I will just let them see how proud of her I am and be open about her scar. To tell them that she has a benine tumor removed when she was a baby. People are usually sympathetic when you say benine tumor instead of birthmark. I usually dont even wait for them to ask, if I notice them staring, I go ahead and tell them. It catches them off guard, epecially if they dont think you see them staring. If your not good with confronting people, hand them a card that sais, " Hello, I saw you staring. My son was born with a birthmark, or benine tumor and had it removed, which is why you see his scar. To learn more about his condition please visit www.birthmark.org." or something to that effect. Just a thought.
Last edited by jgoodman0814 : 09-08-2008 at 01:40 PM.